Friday, October 30, 2009

Obama lifts HIV travel ban

For whatever reason for the past  two decades the United States hasn’t allowed people with HIV or AIDs into this country. Granted we also don’t let gay people donate blood because, y’know, queers all have HIV. Today though that first issue was rectified by President Obama signing the Ryan White HIV/AIDS Treatment Act. From the signing speech:

Twenty-two years ago, in a decision rooted in fear rather than fact, the United States instituted a travel ban on entry into the country for people living with HIV/AIDS.  Now, we talk about reducing the stigma of this disease — yet we’ve treated a visitor living with it as a threat.  We lead the world when it comes to helping stem the AIDS pandemic — yet we are one of only a dozen countries that still bar people from HIV from entering our own country. If we want to be the global leader in combating HIV/AIDS, we need to act like it.  And that’s why, on Monday my administration will publish a final rule that eliminates the travel ban effective just after the New Year.  Congress and President Bush began this process last year, and they ought to be commended for it.  We are finishing the job.  It’s a step that will encourage people to get tested and get treatment, it’s a step that will keep families together, and it’s a step that will save lives.

Who would’ve thought we would come to appreciate leaders that make decisions based on such esoteric things like facts…

Hat tip to Towleroad.

If you’d care to read or watch the whole speech check it out after the jump.

REMARKS BY THE PRESIDENT AT SIGNING OF THE RYAN WHITE HIV/AIDS TREATMENT EXTENSION ACT OF 2009

Diplomatic Reception Room 11:58 A.M. EDT

THE PRESIDENT:  Good morning, everybody.

AUDIENCE:  Good morning.

THE PRESIDENT:  We often speak about AIDS as if it’s going on somewhere else.  And for good reason — this is a virus that has touched lives and decimated communities around the world, particularly in Africa.  But often overlooked is the fact that we face a serious HIV/AIDS epidemic of our own — right here in Washington, D.C., and right here in the United States of America.  And today, we are taking two important steps forward in the fight that we face here at home.

It has been nearly three decades since this virus first became known.  But for years, we refused to recognize it for what it was.  It was coined a “gay disease.”  Those who had it were viewed with suspicion.  There was a sense among some that people afflicted by AIDS somehow deserved their fate and that it was acceptable for our nation to look the other way.

A number of events and advances over the years have broadened our understanding of this cruel illness.  One of them came in 1984, when a 13-year-old boy from central Indiana contracted HIV/AIDS from a transfusion.  Doctors assured people that Ryan White posed no risk to his classmates or his community.  But ignorance was still widespread.  People didn’t yet understand or believe that the virus couldn’t be spread by casual contact.  Parents protested Ryan’s attendance in class.  Some even pulled their kids out of school.  Things got so bad that the White family had to ultimately move to another town.

It would have been easy for Ryan and his family to stay quiet and to fight the illness in private.  But what Ryan showed was the same courage and strength that so many HIV-positive activists have shown over the years and shown around — show around the world today.  And because he did, we didn’t just become more informed about HIV/AIDS, we began to take action to fight it.

In 1990, the year Ryan passed away, two great friends and unlikely political allies, Ted Kennedy and Orrin Hatch, came together and introduced the Comprehensive AIDS Resources Emergency Act — the CARE Act — which was later named after Ryan.

In a few minutes, I’m going to sign the fourth reauthorization of the Ryan White CARE Act.  Now, in the past, policy differences have made reauthorizations of this program divisive and controversial.  But that didn’t happen this year.  And for that, the members of Congress that are here today deserve extraordinary credit for passing this bill in the bipartisan manner that it deserves:  Tom Harkin and Mike Enzi in the Senate, we are grateful to you for your extraordinary work; Speaker Pelosi, who’s always leading the charge on so many issues; Frank Pallone, Jr., Joe Barton, Barbara Lee and Donna Christensen in the House, thank you for your extraordinary work — oh don’t worry, I’m getting to Henry.  (Laughter.)  Nancy is always looking out for members, but we’ve got a special section for Henry.

And Chairman Henry Waxman, who began holding hearings on AIDS in 1982, before there was even a name for AIDS, was leading here in Washington to make sure that this got the informed attention that it deserved and who led the House in passing the original Ryan White legislation in 1990.

I also want to acknowledge the HIV community for crafting a consensus document that did so much to help move this process forward.  Some of the advocates so important to this legislation are with us here today:  Ernest Hopkins from Cities Advocating for Emergency AIDS Relief; Frank Oldham, Jr., President and CEO of the National Association of People with AIDS; and Julie Scofield, Executive Director of the National Alliance of State and Territorial AIDS Directors.

And I’m especially honored that Ryan’s mother, Jeanne White-Ginder, is here today.  For 25 years, Jeanne had an immeasurable impact in helping ramp up America’s response to this epidemic.  While we lost Ryan at too young an age, Jeanne’s efforts have extended the lives and saved the lives of so many others.  We are so appreciative to you.  Thank you.  (Applause.)

You know, over the past 19 years this legislation has evolved from an emergency response into a comprehensive national program for the care and support of Americans living with HIV/AIDS.  It helps communities that are most severely affected by this epidemic and often least served by our health care system, including minority communities, the LGBT community, rural communities, and the homeless.  It’s often the only option for the uninsured and the underinsured.  And it provides life-saving medical services to more than half a million Americans every year, in every corner of the country.

It’s helped us to open a critical front on the ongoing battle against HIV/AIDS.  But let me be clear:  This is a battle that’s far from over, and it’s a battle that all of us need to do our part to join.  AIDS may no longer be the leading killer of Americans ages 25 to 44, as it once was.  But there are still 1.1 million people living with HIV/AIDS in the United States, and more than 56,000 new infections occur every single year.

Some communities still experience unacceptably high rates of infection.  Gay men make up 2 or 3 percent of the population, but more than half of all new cases.  African Americans make up roughly half of all new cases.  Nearly half of all new cases now occur in the South.  And a staggering 7 percent of Washington, D.C.’s residents between the ages of 40 and 49 live with HIV/AIDS — and the epidemic here isn’t as severe as it is in several other U.S. cities.

So tackling this epidemic will take far more aggressive approaches than we’ve seen in the past — not only from our federal government, but also state and local governments, from local community organizations, and from places of worship.

But it will also take an effort to end the stigma that has stopped people from getting tested; that has stopped people from facing their own illness; and that has sped the spread of this disease for far too long.  A couple of years ago Michelle and I were in Africa and we tried to combat the stigma when we were in Kenya by taking a public HIV/AIDS test.  And I’m proud to announce today we’re about to take another step towards ending that stigma.

Twenty-two years ago, in a decision rooted in fear rather than fact, the United States instituted a travel ban on entry into the country for people living with HIV/AIDS.  Now, we talk about reducing the stigma of this disease — yet we’ve treated a visitor living with it as a threat.  We lead the world when it comes to helping stem the AIDS pandemic — yet we are one of only a dozen countries that still bar people from HIV from entering our own country.

If we want to be the global leader in combating HIV/AIDS, we need to act like it.  And that’s why, on Monday my administration will publish a final rule that eliminates the travel ban effective just after the New Year.  Congress and President Bush began this process last year, and they ought to be commended for it.  We are finishing the job.  It’s a step that will encourage people to get tested and get treatment, it’s a step that will keep families together, and it’s a step that will save lives.  (Applause.)

We are continuing the work of crafting a coordinated, measurable national HIV/AIDS strategy to stem and suppress this epidemic.  I’m pleased to report that the Office of National AIDS Policy, led by Jeffrey Crowley, has already held eight in a series of 14 community discussions in cities across the country.  They’ve brought together faith-based organizations and businesses, schools and research institutions, people living with HIV and concerned citizens, gathering ideas on how to target a national response that effectively reduces HIV infections, improves access to treatment, and eliminates health disparities.  And we are encouraged by the energy, the enthusiasm, and great ideas that we’ve collected so far.

We can’t give Ryan White back to Jeanne, back to his mom.  But what we can do — what the legislation that I’m about to sign has done for nearly 20 years — is honor the courage that he and his family showed.  What we can do is to take more action and educate more people.  What we can do is keep fighting each and every day until we eliminate this disease from the face of the Earth.

So with that, let me sign this bill.  (Applause.)

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Atlanta Gay Pride 2009 on Halloween

Gay Pride falls on Halloween this year. How perfect is that? Who loves Halloween more as a group than the gay community? The opportunity to get creative and festive with Pride attire is now open to all new vistas of audacious, outrageous and fabulous.

The change in date was necessary to secure Piedmont Park for the event. Holding Pride anywhere other than Piedmont Park seems wrong. Atlanta Pride needs to be held in the heart of Midtown. That is where it belongs. Personally I am thrilled with timing and venue.

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Giulietta e Romeo (1996)

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Monday, October 26, 2009

"We'll Figure It Out"

* Since Nightrider Wants To Stay Fully Anonymous On This Blog There Will Be No Photos Of Her…Sorry*

“We’ll Figure It Out” was said probably a thousand times over the 4 days  Nightrider and I were in Seattle in the middle of September. I am a horrible navigator, probably mostly because I don’t take getting lost to seriously, and everytime we ended up unsure of where we were or even where we were going those words came out of my mouth. I’m not sure if Nightrider was amused 100% of the time but for the most part we had an awesome time even when we were just giggling in the car over ending up at the other end of the state then we intended to be at.

This was the first big trip Nightrider and I have gone on just the two of us. Last year on Mother’s day we took the kids to Seattle and visited their Aunt, and last October we went to her family reuninon in Vegas but even then we were carpooling with her cousin. So this was a pretty big trip for us. The kids stayed with their Dad for a week and we had some friends puppy sit and we took off for a few days of much needed alone time, reconnecting and honestly just some relaxation. This was also Nightrider’s MSaversary. In August of 2008 she was diagnosed with MS and we thought we really deserved a vacay for getting through the first year with a life changing disease, which alot of couples dont.

We left for Seattle very early in the morning (Nightrider is a get out of town before sunup Nazi) and were on the road Starbucks in hand by 6 am. We enjoyed the road trip (8 hours), stopped when we wanted to, sang along with the radio and talked about alot of things we hadnt had time to get around to lately. One funny thing we talked about while driving was how when you travel with men they make you feel bad anytime you need to stop. It happens this was because men work point A to point B. The way women work, and especially lesbians is from point A to point D, maybe back to C, and eventually to point Z and we F anywhere in between lol.

Our first night in Seattle we checked into our hotel and decided get cleaned up and go out for a nice dinner in the old Red Light District on Capital Hill. We spent sometime walking around and decided on Julia’s On Broadway which is a restraunt that also is a drag club. We had a great time in homo land and felt right at home. The food was great, especially the turkey chili Nightrider had and we enjoyed the ambiance. We were a bit tired so after dinner we went back to hotel and did some of the “reconnecting” I mentioned earlier.

 

The next day we got up early and went to grab breakfast in downtown Seattle, we ended up at this amazingly tasty all natural bagelry and then spent out morning walking through the Pike Street Market and bought gifts for the kids and some of our friends and enjoyed people watching and shopping. I decided to sport the new leopard print dress I had recently picked up at Torrid and felt like a million bucks. Am I fierce or what?

After spending the morning at the market we headed out to visit Nightrider’s Aunt and Uncle who live nearby and spent the afternoon and most of the evening with them. It was great to see good family and we had an absolutely amazing dinner. Then we went back to the hotel and enjoyed the rest of our night together.

The next day we got up early again and headed out to Freemont, its a bit of a hippy town and we thought it would be fun to have breakfast some place kitchy and to do a little shopping in the area. We ate at a great diner called Roxy’s and had a really nice time there. It was a very liberal ambiance and we even took a photo of one of the signs we got a kick out of in the restraunt.

After breakfast we went and saw the Freemont Troll, and did a little shopping. Then we went back to downtown Seattle and took some more photos and did a little sight seeing. That night we spent sometime in our hotel fucking and relaxing and decided to finally get dressed and go get some food. This was the one time getting lost wasnt so fun as we were starving and couldnt find a restraunt that wasnt fast food anywhere near us. After about an hour of being lost, stuck in traffic and dying of starvation we finally gave in and hit a Pizza Hutt next to our hotel. When we got out of the car I wasn’t paying attetion and tripped over a parking curb and busted open my toes, and hurt my knee. I ended up crying like a big baby and hurting my pride, so we got the pizza to go and Nightrider took care of me back at the hotel.

On our last day in Seattle we hit Pike Street again and did a bunch more shopping and people watching, we had lunch at Crabpot anld then headed back to our hotel to get ready for the big event of our trip THE PINK CONCERT!!!! We got looking sexy and left early since from what we heard the line was already forming since 2am! We got there and got our place in line and ended up waiting in line for 4 hours before the show started. Nightrider has a bit of an MS flare but was a tropper and it was totally worth it once the concert started. The Ting Tings opened and were great and then Pink came on. First off let me tell you that I am pretty sure Nightrider would leave me for her goddess Pink at the drop of a hat and I wouldn’t kick her out of bed for eating potatoe chips either The concert was phenominal and sexy and it was like a lesbianfest and a great atmosphere. I can’t even explain how awesome the concert was but she did appear wearing this

and (oh lordy) this

and here are a couple videos showing the miraculousness as she covered Bohemian Rhapsody
and the orgasmic cover of Touch Myself as well.

We didn’t get back to the hotel till around 2 in the morning and we had to hit the road back to Boise at 5am. Nightrider’s cousin rode back with us and we had a nice time talking with him and before we knew it we were back with the kids and back to real life.

All in all definitly a good trip though!

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Who does God hate?

I find that watching crazy people in the morning, while ingesting copious quantities of caffeine, always gets my blood going, though it may not be good for my blood pressure.

This morning I watched an I-report video on CNN about the Westboro Baptist Church. The video was shot by Chris Morrow on Sunday, October 18th at a protest in San Diego.

The Westboro Baptist Church, the charming folks behind the GodHatesFags.com website, protested the Rock Church based on a difference in interpretation of who God hates and who should be allowed to worship. Whereas the Westboro Baptist Church believes that God hates a lot of people: members of the American military, Jews, Gays and the USA, the Rock Church has opened their congregation to all, believing that God loves everyone.

From the Westboro Baptist Church website: Since 1955, Westboro Baptist Church (WBC) has taken forth the precious from the vile, and so is as the mouth of God (Jer. 15:19). In 1991, WBC took her ministry to the streets, conducting 41,226 41,226 <i>over 34,000</i> peaceful demonstrations (to date) opposing the f@g lifestyle of soul-damning, nation-destroying filth. In response, america bombed WBC; & burned WBC on 8-2-2008. God is america’s enemy: 5,200 dead soldiers; $11 trillion+ in national debt.

Selecting groups within society to blame for the troubles of the world is not a new tactic, though watching dissent amongst two Christian congregations regarding God’s prejudices demonstrates the subjective interpretation of religion by the individual. It is clear that humans are casting God in their own image, believing with heartfelt sincerity that God harbors the same beliefs and biases that they do.

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Monday, October 19, 2009

The Screentest Girls (1969)

Sue and Linda want to be in the Movies and are up for some screentests at Mr. Zoltan and his assistant Barbara. They get faced with and thrown into some pretty demanding situations and scenarios.

Independent film that surely qualifies as sexploitation cause the girls, judging by the looks uppon their faces they have at times, don’t act their audition and screenttest parts.

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Friday, October 16, 2009

Gay marriage map spells out equality

Interactive map that explains gay marriage in every state. Photo from Latimes.com.

The Los Angeles Times has created a comprehensive map outlining what sort of gay marriage protections and bans are in place in every state, as well as the dates of bans and history of gay marriage law in the state. Simply hover you mouse over a state and the information pops up.

It is quite an impressive and useful tool for people who want to know each state’s status. There is even a timeline of gay marriage battles across the U.S. To view the map, click here.

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Wednesday, October 14, 2009

reinventing

trying to figure out how to get my current life to look like I want it to…

Despite the past, despite any mistakes or bad decisions, despite whatever paths I have gone down, despite any experiences I have had…

how do you fix the foundation of something without collapsing the whole thing in the process?

How do you not make excuses for what is in your life?

How do you get around needed things in your life you can not get rid of but seem to get in the way of what you want to do?

How do you start over when you can’t go back to the beginning?

Trying to find out a plan… not sure what it looks like yet, but I am excited… I love change!

Monday, October 12, 2009

October is GLBT History Month - Noting GLBT Historical Figures

In the 1990’s the month of October was designated as GLBT month, to recognize and commemorate gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender/sexual community history in America.  October was chosen because it was also when National Coming Out Day occurred and schools were in session.  Teachers and community leaders felt this was a good month since GLBT history is not actively taught in the public schools as a part of American history.

Having a History month as such helps raise awareness and also continues the cause for full equality.

How to Take Care of a Woman: Identify and Acknowledge Problems 2

Okay so getting back into the topic of
“how to take care of a woman”.

2. Husbands/Children/Already Created Families.
I already dealt with “history of abuse” as best as I could in another thread but this time we’re going to talk about “Families” in lesbian relationships.
Now there’s the problem of your girlfriends mom and dad being totally against her being a lesbian and all that other stuff, which would really suck in a relationship. I haven’t encountered this particular problem myself because all my ex’s were…how should I put it again? Super dykes, who’s parents were well aware of the fact that they were gay. I think I just figured out another reason why I like butches so much. Butch lesbians, more often then not, have already dealt with the whole “parent issue“. Their parents either didn’t accept it and disowned them or accepted it and everything’s fine. All of this would happen long before I came along and I am grateful for that.

Another issue comes from the family your lover has created. Children, Ex boyfriend/husbands, and husbands. I’d hope most lesbians know better then to date a woman who was married, but um, no, not all do. I have a friend who seems to be addicted to dating married women. When I first met her she told me immediately how much she disliked bisexuals. I told her that wasn’t fair, just because she’s had bad run ins with bi’s doesn’t mean they’re all bad. Come to find out that not only is she still dating bisexuals, which she’s suppose to hate, more then half of them have husbands. SHEESH!
So yeah, I really wouldn’t suggest you do the husband thing unless you want to end up in some sort of commune/harem for this guy. Or worst have him find out, not like it, and come after you.

The children part is tricky but then again it isn’t. If you don’t want kids, don’t like kids, stay away from women with kids. That’s pretty easy ain’t it? Don’t be a jackass about it either. Don’t talk about all lesbians with kids like we’re subhuman or something. Do NOT date a woman with a kid and then act like you’re trying to get rid of the kid as much as possible or something. Understand that it is a packaged deal.
I have a child. Yes, that’s evidence that I fucked a guy at some point. No, I don’t need you to be that child’s new she-daddy. Piss me off and I’m still going to break up with you. There is no desperate single moms here. You’d be surprised how many men and women hit on me, because I have a child! Because they think I’m more vulnerable and will put up with more bullshit. Boy, do they ever get a rude awakening.

If your dating a woman with kids you have to remember “her child comes first”. If her child doesn’t come first and she repeatedly puts you over her kid, she’s a dumb ass. I know it’s hard. I’ve been there. You love this person, they make you happy (most of the time). The kid? you have to feed it, educate it and listen to it…at least half the time when it’s babbling away about “Sponge Bob” and singing the theme song to “Go, Deigo, Go”! But I just remind myself that even if I don’t find the woman of my dreams I’m stuck with my child FOREVER. So yeah, if I fuck him up it’s really gonna suck ass for me.
Besides, I’m a bigger fan of Sponge Bob then he is. Cute little queer Sponge that lives in a pinapple, what’s not to like about this show?

If you want to make a woman with a child really happy, try to do some family stuff with her. If she gets lazy (and I do) tell her you want to take the kid to the park, or go for a walk. Go to the movies, chucky cheese, somewhere…yes, be a big happy dykey family. It’s cute! Play with the kid(s), help decorate the nursery/kids room. Read books about raising children and child psychology, your girlfriend will totally be impressed! I would be impressed because I don’t have time to read those kinds of books. Get magazines like familyfun, familycircle, parents. Us single moms are busy, seriously, most of us wish we had time to read about stuff like that. Someone else reading them and then discussing that stuff with us would be a big help. Basically being part of a family can be fun, it ain’t going to be easy, but it can be fun. But if it’s not for you just figure that out ASAP. It’s one thing to have to break a girls heart but don’t break her and her kids heart!

Another weird thing about this. I’ve actually known women who wanted to date me because I have a child and not because that I’m more vulnerable, but because they want children. This can be cool or this can be creepy. Most people want something from someone which is why they’re dating them. Men want sex, women want emotional connection/support, some lesbians want your damn uterus. Everything in moderation. Love me for me, not because I have a little guy orbiting around me at all times. I’ve had a woman tell me the first time we talked on the phone that she wanted me to have a baby for her. Yep, that was about it as far as us talking. Think I’m too picky? She said my son was so cute she wanted me to make more of those little guys for her. Flattering as that was, still, really, creepy. Don’t do that.

3. Level of acceptance of homosexuality. As Undercover Punk mentioned there is always going to be one party in the relationship that’s more accepting then the other. However, I think having a partner that’s “in the closet” would wreck a relationship. My first relationship was “in the closet” sort of, because we were in the military. That and I hadn’t totally accepted being gay yet. So yeah that really destroyed the relationship. I really don’t know what advice to give for this part. I want to say if you fall in love with someone of the same sex and they love you, please be considerate of their emotions and don’t let fear get in the way. But that’s whack advice. Being gay just isn’t that cut and dry yet. I’m going to have to mull this over and find a way to not over simplify.

But yeah, just imagine how annoying it must be to be in a gay relationship with someone who

Friday, October 9, 2009

Announcing "club bounce!"

In celebration of National Coming Out Day (October 11th), Caffé Sportivo is debuting our LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender, and Questioning) dance club, called Club Bounce!

Join us every Friday and Saturday night from 10pm-2am, Caffé Sportivo will turn from a relaxing organic coffee bar, to a jamming dance club while still offering our fantastic beverages. Club Bounce is an 18 and over event and the cost is $2.00 at the door. 50% of the admission will be donated to AIDS Community Research Consortium in Redwood City. No alcohol as we promote health and wellness.

Please let your friends and community know about this exciting event. We hope that this spurs other events on the peninsula for the LGBTQ community!

Caffé Sportivo is a locally gay owned and operated independent, socially conscious, and casual caffé — your wellness caffé. We pride ourselves on quality products and services.

We’re the only organic coffee bar on the peninsula offering wellness services, including exercise, personal training, and massage.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Femme of the week &hearts;

 

Name: SinfullyGrinch
Age:21
Status: Single
Bio: I am Jersey raised and bred. I attended The Art Institute in NY
for fashion design and sketching. I wear my art as an outfit and all
over my skin, hand drawing my tattoos. Although I have a knack for art
I discovered my passion is medicine and healthcare. A year ago I
started my career as a NJ EMT doing 911 response and personal medical
transport. Education is the name of my game and I plan on continuing
education until I take my last breath. I am goal
oriented,determined,and independent femme with the persona of a stud.
I consider myself something like a goofball. Purely a lover and not a
fighter. I have a heart of gold and an old soul. Love is my
kryptonite. I am nothing special but I will never be simply basic.

Contact : www.twitter.com/Sinfullygrinch

Monday, October 5, 2009

Womens Football Association Cup Final

Womens Football Association Cup Final – Monday 4th May 2009: Arsenal Ladies v Sunderland Women at Pride Park Stadium, Derby.

Arsenal Ladies 2 -1 Sunderland Women               

The Bank Holiday win was Arsenal Ladies fourth FA Cup victory in succession. Most football pundits had predicted an Arsenal win however the score line was somewhat unexpected.

Sunderland keeper, Alderton, kept Arsenal at bay until the 32nd minute when Katy Chapman put the Lady ‘Gunners’ ahead. Arsenals second half performance was less than inspired but for a moment of brilliance by midfielder Kim Little as she secured the victory on 90+ 2 minutes.

Having beaten Chelsea Ladies on route to the final, the Sunderland squad managed a 90+ 7 minute consolation goal. Sunderland defender, Bronze, was awarded player of the match and both the goal and the award were much deserved after a fighting display by the northern Division team.

Same-Sex Divorce in Tennessee Revisited

About a week ago, I posted about whether same-sex couples can get a divorce in Tennessee.  I wrote that they could not, and I still have that opinion, based on  Tennessee’s current constitution and statutes.  However, it appears this issue may come to a head in Texas, where a district judge ruled that a gay couple could be divorced, even though Texas will not recognize a marriage between two people of the same sex.

The reason the case in Texas interests me, is because the judge in Texas granted the divorce after finding the Texas law violates the equal protection clause of the federal constitution.

The provision in the Texas constitution that prohibits same-sex marriage is similar (in effect) to the amendment of the Tennessee constitution which limits marriage to one man and one woman.

The decision by the district judge in Texas is not binding on Tennessee, but if a higher court (particularly the U.S. Supreme Court) were to find the law in Texas unconstitutional, it would mean the similar law in Tennessee (as well as many other states) would become ineffective.

The questions isn’t whether or not the law is discriminatory.  There’s no doubt the government is discriminating based on sexual orientation.  The ultimate question that will have to be answered is whether the government’s purpose in reserving marriage to one man and one woman is important enough to justify discriminating against gay and lesbian couples.

This battle is just getting warmed up, and it’s only a matter of time before this issue lands before the U.S. Supreme court.  In fact, the Texas case could be headed that way.  The judge made her ruling on Thursday, and the Attorney General filed a notice of appeal on Friday.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Word to the Wise...

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Judicial Activism and what does it mean to judge? Government 101

Cries of judicaial activisim are raising up in Texas.  But is it really activism?  Perhaps it is good judicial review of an unjust law?
Dallas Judge Shoots Down Texas’ Ban on Gay Marriage – Law Blog – WSJ

Nevertheless let’s look at first our government and then our judicial process – maybe we can come to an informed decision ourselves.

Branches of Government
There are three branches of government (3):  Executive, Legislative, and Judicial.

Executive: the branch of the United States government that is responsible for carrying out the laws wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
Legislative: The branch of government which is concerned with the making of laws
en.wiktionary.org/wiki/legislative_branch
Judicial: the branch of the United States government responsible for the administration of justice
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Focusing in on the last one, it is the duty of a judge to administer justice.

Justice:

  • the quality of being just or fair
  • judgment involved in the determination of rights and the assignment of rewards and punishments
  • judge: a public official authorized to decide questions brought before a court of justice
  • Department of Justice: the United States federal department responsible for enforcing federal laws (including the enforcement of all civil rights legislation); created in 1870
    wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn


So how does a judge administer justice?

The Judicial Process

Article III of the Constitution of the United States guarantees that every person (note the word every) accused of wrongdoing has the right to a fair trial before a competent judge and a jury of one’s peers.

The Fourth, Fifth, and Sixth Amendments to the Constitution provide additional protections for those accused of a crime. These include:

  • A guarantee that no person shall be deprived of life, liberty, or property without the due process of law
  • Protection against being tried for the same crime twice (”double jeopardy”)
  • The right to a speedy trial by an impartial jury
  • The right to cross-examine witnesses, and to call witnesses to support their case
  • The right to legal representation
  • The right to avoid self-incrimination
  • Protection from excessive bail, excessive fines, and cruel and unusual punishments

For this case, the type of court is relevant, since it is not a criminal case but a family dispute.  The participants in the legal actions are married and must seek out resolution in a family court.

Family Court

A separate court or a separate division of the regular state trial court, that considers only cases involving family-related issues, which could include divorce, child custody and support, guardianship, adoption, and the issuance of restraining orders in domestic violence cases.

Problem?

According to the voters and to the Texas state constitution, marriage is only defined as between a man and a woman.  However, the rules of our country state we all have equal protection.

So what does that mean?

“The Equal Protection Clause, part of the Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, provides that “(n)o state shall … deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws”.[1] The Equal Protection Clause can be seen as an attempt to secure the promise of the United States’ professed commitment to the proposition that “all men are created equal“[2] by empowering the judiciary to enforce that principle against the states.”

This is very important.  Because these men, were legally married outside of Texas, but with the way the law is now their marriage was null and void upon stepping on Texas soil and living there.  By not protecting these men and their right to resolve a judicial dispute, they are not being given equal protection.  In doing so, the laws and the state are saying, without words, that these men are not equal to every other citizen in the state of Texas or beyond.

Not equal. (please make a note – this is important)

BUT we are guaranteed by the constitution of the united states that ALL men are created equal and that all citizens will have equal protection…. and THAT my friends is just one very big reason why denying gay and lesbian adults the right to marry is deplorable.  They are citizens, they are just as productive as their heterosexual neighbors, they are not second class – there is NO compelling evidence that orientation will lead to any number of other ridiculous and heinous acts.  There is also no compelling state interest in preventing such contracts and the dissolution there of should they choose.

Conclusion
My conclusion, the judge is simply calling out an unjust law and using common judicial sense and supporting national law to do so.  Which is her JOB… in making sure the courts administer justice.

I hope these men win their divorce and people take a long hard look at why they have decided to exclude a group from equal protection and equal application of the law.

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Thursday, October 1, 2009

Coming Out

I dont exactly have a coming out story. My Mother caught me making out with my “best friend” when I was 12 and told my father. With all my brothers and sisters there she simply said….do you like girls? I was intimidated by the question even though there was no malice in it whatsoever. Alls I could make myself do was shrug my shoulders and walk away from the accusation. They were highly supportive and never mentioned it again except for a few hinted jokes to try and make me comfortable. I was beside myself. I wasn’t quite ready to define that part of me yet.  I was unsure and scared. I kept dating boys and went so far as to be married to my high school sweetheart….all the while sleeping with every beautiful woman I could get my hands on. I knew there was nothing better than the feel of a woman….yet still couldn’t get myself to say I was gay, I am gay. My extended family is highly homophobic. I worried too much then about being an outcast and being talked about. I was scared. Then my time came when I joined the army (how cliche). I met an amazing girl and was instantly infatuated with her in more ways than sexual. I progressed as I went through all my training. I realized I have always been gay, a lesbian. I enjoy the company of my male friends and mistook that for attraction. Counting all the times I’ve snuck out to the gay bar and slept around with woman I decided enough was enough. I needed to be me and happy at all costs. To bad it took so long because there I was with and asshole husband, four kids and no future. I was afraid. When I returned home from all of my training I came out to my best friend….as having no gender preference. A small lie but easier to see how it would go with that instead of the full blow. My cousin of course is my best friend and has known since we were like 5, he’s also gay and is my go to person for everything! Unknowing to him he gave me strength to proceed. I told everyone important to me and everyone has for the most part accepted who I am. Some think it’s a phase and others really dont care to judge. I joined to dating websites to get out there and meet more people who could actually remember me when they were sober the next day instead of hitting up all the bars. I have met and am now living with the most amazing woman. I have never been so happy and in love. She accepts everything about and is my heart and soul. So I guess you could say I am still in the coming out process…but all the people who matter know and I’m not ashamed of who I am because I am the same person I have always been, everyone sees that and I’m proud of my friends and family. I sympathize with those who can’t open their hearts. I only hope it gets easier for younger kids to be who they are as soon as they realize it.

 

I have never been so sure of myself.

Hello, God, it's me

Hi, God. I know it’s quite morning, but I wanna ask you some things.

Dear God, I’ve been thinking a lot about why do women get with men and men get with women, when it would be so much easier to just go the same way.

You know, God, these magazines I’ve been reading lately – the men magazines have a man on the cover and some women in the inside, while the women magazines have a woman on the cover and a lot of women on the inside (are you trying to tell use something, God?). There was this interesting article about the morning erection, which almost all men are said to have, while women tend to want sex in the evening. Mathematically speaking, this means that a couple should wake up at 2-3 am to have sex. I wonder what gay couples do. In The L word, women woke up very early in the morning and they were too damn smiley for that unappropriate hour. Does this mean they had just gotten laid?

EDIT: Hey, now that I think about it, the Bible says that the Man was made by His looks and similarity. But men have erections every morning. Does this mean…………… ok, God, you can answer me later.

By the way, God (when you’ve finished), how do you explain – to a man – the difference between a pearly shine lipstick and a water shine lipstick? Will he ever care? And, God, if you make women so strong as to endure PMS, period, labour and epillation, why didn’t you give them enough strength so as to open a bottle with bare hands? How come that a woman wants 10 pairs of shoes and a running computer, while the man is happy with 1 pair of sport shoes and 1 pair of trousers, but will die if he doesn’t get that display?

P.S. The ugly truth is new in town (see review made by Lore here). The town of “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus” movies. Don’t waste money to see it. Katherine Heigl’s boobs look the same on your home display. Better watch When Harry met Sally. Meg Ryan is delicious, especially in this scene:

Pardon my unclarity, God, it’s just too damn morning.